Thursday, November 21, 2013

Tough Love

Yesterday I talked about this funky week. Well, it has been funky because reality is setting in for me. I am THANKFUL that 2 of my best friends love me enough to speak to me about my situation. Although it hurts, it needed to be said.

The reality is I am now a single mom of three kids. (Two teenagers and one who acts like a teenager.) When I became a mom, it never crossed my mind that I might one day be a single mom. 

My now ex husband decided that he did not want to be here anymore. So, I did what any one would do. I let him go.

He does provide child support and alimony for me. For about 13 years of the 19 year marriage I was a stay at home wife and mom. Georgia is not an alimony state though, so I only have what I could get him to agree on.

In January, it will be cut in half.

Reality check.

I need a job.

I thought my book would be my job. That is not working out like I thought it would. I can publish for free through iBooks, but then they will take 30% of my profit. And that limits my sales to Apple products only. Not cool.

Ephesians 4: 15 says, "15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ."

1 Corinthians 16:14 says, "14 Do everything in love."

My best friends love me enough to wake me up and help me do something that I need to do in order to provide for my children. That's tough love. They didn't want to hurt me. Talking to me in love was the right thing to do.

Here is what I want you to get from this. If you have a friend, best friend or not, that needs to hear the truth. Tell them.


  1. Jill, this is a great post! You are an amazing person because you are willing to listen to those who love you even when you don't like what they have to say. I believe your work will fuel your writing!

  2. That is one thing I can say about Jill, she does listen, she might not always want to follow your advice but she considers everything that is said and truly ponders it. Hope I didn't hurt your feelings, just wanted to be awakened to what could be a possibility. Love ya girl, you got this because God is right there with you!

  3. Jill, I don't know the ins and outs of it but have you considered Amazon? Love you and thinking of you... I am looking at that same possibilioty myself (going back to work, not single mom)... its only been 3 years for me and getting back out there scares the bajeebbies outta me.