I believe we are here for community. We are here for relationships with others. Being real about what's going on is the first step to get help and support. (Which one of my friends has done.)
However, you've got to be willing to do something yourself sometimes. Sitting around and being negative is not helping anyone. Fear can torment people if they let it. Realize this, God is on your side. He has you.
2 Timothy 1:7 says this, "7 God didn’t give us a spirit that makes us weak and fearful. He gave us a spirit that gives us power and love. It helps us control ourselves."
Stop living in fear! I know the unknown is scary. God has you though and He will see you through. As a friend, it is my place to pray for and be here for people who are dealing with this.
Here is my main point: People who are trying to help can only take so much. You can not be choosy and picky about what they are trying to do for you. That's wrong.
Also, family members NEED to step in when necessary! The Bible even talks about that.
1 Timothy 5: 8 says, "8 Everyone should provide for his own relatives. Most of all, everyone should take care of his own family. If he doesn’t, he has left the faith. He is worse than someone who doesn’t believe."
Do you have family members in need but you aren't helping? Why aren't you doing something?
Helping others is important. There does come a time where we can not continue helping though. And there comes a time when we might be hindering the person or the family who should be helping! Use wisdom and ask God to help you do the right thing when you are helping.